A year ago, I was in this place of feeling stuck. As in I didn’t know what to do with my life or where to go. Fortunately, I know I’m not the only one. Let me know below if you have felt this way. It’s almost as if you feel lost. I know I didn’t like my job at the time, my marriage was stressful, my son was 3 months plus was sick with a fever, worried about money, worried about what happens next and wondering if I’m ever going to get out of this situation.
What I first had to do was to Simplify. Check out 3 ways to Simplify your life.
When it came down to it, I felt life was spiraling down in front of my eyes. Looking back at it now, it was brutal and I wanted to let you know the 3 things I did to get out of that feeling.
1) Recognize what isn’t working
I love this first one because a lot of times I would keep doing the same things over and over not realizing that maybe this isn’t working. Hmm that’s definitely the definition of insanity. I got so comfortable being in my comfort zone and stuck in my routine that it took me awhile to realize that it’s not working. I was trying to do the same routine with a baby that I had before a baby. If you are a parent or live in the same house with a baby you understand what I’m talking about your old ways are dismissed. I had to realize and recognize that me trying to hang out with friends, exercise like I did before, or me thinking I’m going to get work done the same way prior to my son is not going to work. Each month, I give myself a self-check in. A self-check-in is when you take time to concentrate on you. See where you at and ask yourself if your happy where you’re at right now? If not, what can you do to change it? As I been on my Les Brown binge lately( SN: I don’t know why it took me so long to know about this man, one of ya’ll should have told me about him lol) I felt he said it best when he says,” We spent hours and hours working for others, but take no time to work on ourselves,” It’s time to start working on you.
Ask yourself questions such as What are your likes and dislikes? How has your mood been? How can you change it?
Remember you have a say so in your life. Do a monthly check in to make sure things are going right on track. Your check-ins will reveal what are some things you need to let go.
Tip: Make a list of things that aren’t working for you or people that are holding you back. The first step is being aware of your situation and what’s going on in your life
2) Reward Yourself
I was working hard to take care of everyone else that I ended up forgetting about me. You and I might be in the same boat here when it comes to nurturing our friends and family but YOU fall on the back burner. Invest and reward yourself. And let me make this clear that rewarding yourself doesn’t always mean out to eat, it could be getting your nails done or doing a hobby you haven’t done in awhile. I reward myself through education or giving myself some “me time” through sitting at a coffee shop( well my version of a coffee shop is Panera) reading with my Green Passion Power smoothie (that stuff is addictive lol). Anyway, It’s about doing something for you even it’s only for 30 min.
Tip: Buy something that you’ve always wanted, travel somewhere to clear your mind, maybe you’ll discover new things or new thoughts that may change your life. Go to a spa! I want you to give a gift from you to you. And forget about other people and their comments, your life is yours.
3) Don’t set any limits to your change
As I begun to recognize what isn’t working and rewarding myself, I slowly started changing. I gave up the spirit of fear, prayed and let things happens. I noticed my job at the time was stressful and didn’t suit well with my family or dreams. What I did to change it was I found a different position from another company that was less stressful so I can focus on what matters to me most. When you start focusing on you, it’s funny how you never know how life will take you afterward. Don’t limit yourself on your change. Change can be from your appearance to your situation.
Tip: Changing your appearance is a fun way to encourage inner change (fun clothes will encourage you to be fun!) and changing a situation can make a great life changing experience once you feel it’s right for you. .
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Did I forget any tips? Have you tried these before? Let me know what works for you or what you want to add before